To be authentic is to be real, transparent, truthful, or honest. Within the word relationships are the words “relate” and “ship.” Some synonyms for “relate” include communication, link up, share, connect, and cooperate. When I think of the word “ship,” I think of a boat, cruise ship, vessel, or something that carries or transports people or goods. As I reflect upon all of these separate ideas of the words authentic relationships, I am humbled because the underlying meaning of these words is all about transparency, care, connection, cooperation, commitment, communication and character.
I had to stop and ask myself, “Are my closest relationships authentic relationships?” My honest answer was “no, not all of them.” Then, I began to think about my past and current relationships and mentally list examples of experiences within those relationships that appeared authentic to me. Even though I had many examples to list out, I clearly had more growth opportunities in this area of authentic relationships.
So, moving forward, I have decided to make a conscious effort to establish and sustain authentic relationships because I want all of the things listed above in my closest relationships – transparency, care, connection, cooperation, commitment, communication, and character. In short, I want true partnerships. How about you? Life in college is the perfect time to get serious about the types of relationships you are entering into. Often times, you will carry these relationships well into your future.
Take care of yourself in a way that helps you identify, establish, and maintain an authentic relationship with yourself and others. A few ways to do this are to answer the following questions:
- Is the idea of an authentic relationship important to me? Why or why not?
- What are the indicators of authentic and correct relationships for me?
- What does not work well for me in my relationships?
- How is my mental, physical, and emotional well-being affected in my closest relationships?
The questions above are a few examples of my unique way of focusing on and sustaining authentic relationships while experiencing Growth in Motion!!
Growth in Motion™!! = Self care + Self Empowerment + Self knowledge + Self Direction
As I continue to embrace all of me – the good, bad, and unconscious aspects of myself, I continue to change, reshape, and/or redefine my life and relationships in a way that feels correct for me. I suggest that you keep the above questions close by, use them consistently, and watch how magnificent your relationships become!
Take Care of Yourself,
“Living a Growth in Motion™ lifestyle!”