Are You in Forward or Reverse?

Ever found yourself reminiscing about the past? Wonder what would have happened if you and—you know—had given it a whirl back when you had a chance? Are you especially curious now since things don’t seem to be working out with you know who that you’re currently dating?

Can you imagine driving down the street with your eyes glued to the rear view mirror? Sounds dangerous; especially since the rear view mirror is tiny and pointed in the wrong direction compared to the front windshield. Why have a front windshield? Because there are so many things to focus on in front of you rather than behind you—in your present and your future rather than your past. The rear view mirror is just there to remind you of where you’ve been which YOU decided to leave behind so that you can adjust where you need to go from here. You made the best decisions you could at the time with the information you had and that’s okay. No need to pine away now wishing and wondering what would have happened if things had been different.

Where you are going is still up to you, and that’s why you have windshield wipers and sun visors on your windshield. You can clearly see what’s coming at you and make good decisions about whether or not to continue on this road or turn onto another one. You can also see the weather conditions better through the front windshield than the rear view mirror and make proper adjustments to the speed you’re going.

Yes, it’s tempting to wish for a second chance but at the moment, focus forward. If things are looking kind of rocky, shift into another gear. Address what’s wrong and make it right. Ask different questions and try different solutions. Maybe it’s too treacherous to move right now and it would be better to just sit tight for a while. If things work out then you can keep going and stay on course. If not, well maybe you could make a legal u-turn and revisit some familiar territory – you never know what’s waiting around the bend.

If you have a love story to tell about how you used your rear view mirror or your front windshield I’d love to hear about it.

I’m Dr. Torri “Love” Griffin. LPC
The Campus Love Coach
“Issuing the LiSENSE 2 DATE from State to State”

About Dr. Torri "Love" Griffin (23 Posts)

Dr. Torri “Love” Griffin, LPC is the creator of the LiSENSE 2 DATE™ Relationship Training Program which teaches singles of all ages to “use common SENSE to remove NONSENSE so their relationships make SENSE.”