February 5, 2012

CampusTalkBlog posts by Troy Stende

About Troy Stende

Troy Stende uses experiential learning-based leadership programs to help schools develop student leaders and increase student retention. He believes those two things are inseparable and has been helping colleges and universities create connections and strengthen campus community since 1998. Learn more at www.SpendeInspirations.com.

Stop trying. It’s not possible anyway!

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In Star Wars, Luke’s ship just sank into the swamp . Yoda tells him he could raise it out using the Force. Luke looks very doubtful and says, “I’ll try.” Yoda says, “Do or do not, there is no try.” And, of course, Luke is unsuccessful. Luke didn't get how powerful that work can be. Occasionally, when I’m facilitating a collegiate leadership retreat, a student will be on the verge of a major personal breakthrough and they might say...“I’ll TRY to take action when I’m afraid... I’ll TRY to stand up for what I believe in... I’ll TRY to have more confidence in myself.” I’ll coach them on the word “try” and tell them to replace it and speak again. “I WILL take action when I’m afraid.. I AM going to stand up for what I believe in... I HAVE more … [Read more...]

Don’t tell me you can’t.

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The other day, my 5 year old was having a hard time tying his shoe. He said, “I can’t do this, Dad!” With a smile I reminded him we don’t say, “I can’t.” Instead we say, “Help please.” “Can’t” is a word that takes all your power away. It leaves you with no options and feeling defeated. If you must say “can’t” then add the word, “I can’t, yet” There’s hope in that; things can change and you can and will do it eventually. Here’s a phrase I don’t allow myself to say; “I can’t afford it.” Again, it takes my power away and leaves me feeling hopeless. I feel defeated and my life revolves around scarcity and lack. I simply change that thought into, “I choose not to spend my money on that right now.” This still lets me feel a sense of … [Read more...]

How to boost attendance at your leadership conference (and increase your active student leader base)

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In my years of speaking at leadership conferences around the country, I’ve seen many different ways to create high attendance and many ways to crash and burn. Recently, I spoke at Georgian College in Barrie, Ontario, Canada. They used one of my favorite models for getting attendance and student buy in... the Nomination model. Here's how it works. Faculty or staff nominate students who they think are up-and-coming leaders, students who are showing promise/potential. These students aren’t necessarily involved in anything yet. Think more like emerging leader. For this model, have the faculty/staff do one of two things: Write a letter saying why the student should be allowed to go to the conference. An easier way, but less special, is to have the nominator just submit a … [Read more...]

Respondability – The power to choose your reaction

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So there I was; on the rings at a Division 1 NCAA gymnastics meet, in the middle of a great routine…and it happened. While doing a press to handstand, I farted! In front of what felt like millions of people- even though there was just a couple hundred. How embarrassing! So what do you do in that moment? Do I run into the locker room and never come out in public again? Do I quit gymnastics so I won’t be in that situation again? Or do I acknowledge what happened and continue on? We’ve all been in embarrassing situations and it’s definitely not a fun place to be - that’s why it’s embarrassing. When I was up in the handstand and I farted and everyone was laughing at me, I had to make a choice - how am I going to react? In our everyday lives, things happen to us all the time. … [Read more...]

Progression – A Sure-Fire Icebreaker

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This is another icebreaker in the “Sure-fire Icebreaker” series. Below is a full script of an amazing icebreaker. I created such an extensive description because I've found that it can be difficult to do a great icebreaker from a three-sentence description. Being a professional speaker and student leader trainer, I’m on college campuses often doing leadership retreats and orientations. Over the past decade, working with tens of thousands of students, I've learned the hard way what works and what doesn't. Most icebreakers flop because the students don’t fully understand the directions or they feel corny or awkward doing it. It ends up being a lot of work and not a lot of play. Follow my script and you can skip the learning curve and move right into awesomeness! This is a very low … [Read more...]

The Hobo in you believes every word you say

One dark evening in a train depot, a hobo was looking for a place to sleep. As he was searching, he noticed in the distance a boxcar with its door slightly open. He went over to it and squeezed himself inside the door. The moment that he got inside, the door slammed shut behind him. He turned to open it but it was stuck; it wouldn't budge no matter how hard he pulled. He looked around the rest of the car and could find no other way out, just cold solid walls. All at once, he realized something terrible; he was trapped in a freezer car. Immediately, he felt the intense cold penetrating into his bones, and his body began to shiver. The hobo started to panic. He raced back to the door, trying to rip the handle off. He pounded on the door with his fists, screaming for help as loudly as he … [Read more...]

High 5 Paired Shares – A Sure-Fire Icebreaker

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This is another icebreaker in the “Sure-fire Icebreaker” series. Below is a full script of an amazing icebreaker. I created such an extensive description because I’ve found that it can be difficult to do a great icebreaker from a three-sentence description. Being a professional speaker and student leadership trainer, I’m on college campuses and at leadership retreats and orientations a lot. Over the past decade, working with tens of thousands of students, I’ve learned the hard way what works and what doesn’t. Most icebreakers flop because the students don’t fully understand the directions or they feel corny or awkward doing it. It ends up being a lot of work and not a lot of play. Follow my script and you can skip the learning curve I had to take and move right into … [Read more...]

In college or in life… Are you 100 percent committed?

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During my keynotes and retreats on college campuses, I talk a lot about commitment. I even have an audience member break an arrow with their neck [without using their hands] as a demonstration of being truly committed. I recently took on a big commitment. I started P90X. It’s an extreme home fitness video series that’s a 90-day commitment. My commitment to the program is tested daily because the workouts are so extreme and I push myself to the limit every time. When you add to the mix raising two boys, being a husband, running a business with traveling and speaking… that’s when it gets really challenging. The other week I was on the road facilitating a leadership conference at Sonoma State University in northern California. I spoke all day, went to dinner, took a hike in the … [Read more...]

Categorie – A Sure-Fire Icebreaker

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[showtime] Here’s the next edition in the Sure-Fire Icebreaker series. This is a quick icebreaker that is very low gradient and an easy way to meet a lot of people you don’t know and learn random information about them. As a bonus, I often use this icebreaker to get large groups into smaller groups in the last round. Set up Have them stand up and get into a large bunched up group. “I’ll say a number and a category. I might say the number is 4, and the category is ‘people born in the same month as you.’ The music will come on and you will go find 3 other people to make a group of 4 who were born in the same month as you.” You might get people starting to talk and look around for people born in their same month. If that happens I say; “I might say that, but I’m not … [Read more...]

Giants, Wizards & Elves – A Sure-Fire Icebreaker

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[showtime] To start this icebreaker, split everyone into two groups. Have them form two lines facing each other in the center of the room with their team standing shoulder to shoulder. Your instruction to the two teams goes as follows: “Welcome to a new planet! On this world there are only three creatures and they are at WAR. Let me introduce the creatures. First, there is the giant. It looks and sounds like this, ‘ROAR!’ Do this with me, 1,2,3, ‘ROAR!’ “Then there’s the wizard. It looks and sounds like this, ‘SSSSS!’ Do this with me, 1,2,3, ‘SSSSS!’ “And finally, there are the elves. They look and sound like this, ‘WeWeWeWe!’ [done with a high pitch] Do this with me, 1,2,3, ‘WeWeWeWe!’ “These creatures are at war! Here’s how it works- it’s … [Read more...]

Translating student retention numbers to the bottom line

Think your strategic enrollment efforts and intentional retention efforts don’t matter? Guess again. Your impact might be bigger than you think. If your student retention rates on your campus increase by just one percent the impact can be significant to the university’s bottom line. Let’s do some quick math based on a real-life example of a 1.6 percent increase in student retention at Maryville University in St. Louis, MO. Thanks to Dr. Beth Triplett & Dr. Jennifer McCluskey for supplying the numbers. … [Read more...]

Fox & the Hound – A Sure-Fire Icebreaker

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[showtime] This activity is very high energy and is great to do when you want to get people up and moving. Make sure you have enough room so it can stay safe. I’ve facilitated this activity with eight people all the way to 800 with great success. To start the ice breaker off you’ll need to get people in to groups of exactly four. This can work with five but it’s just not quite the same. To get started, I might say something like this: “When I say go and the music comes on, you’ll form a group of exactly four - no more and no less. Preferably with people you don’t know. When you get this group of four, stand in a circle and get to know as much about each other as you can while the music is still going. Ready, Go.” Once they’ve formed groups and have had a few minutes to … [Read more...]

Pepsi and Social Conscience – a Refreshing Approach to the Super Bowl That Could Make a Difference

Pepsi has answered the question this year in a big way. For the past 23 consecutive years they have run commercial during the Super Bowl…but not this year. In a decision that gives me hope, they are instead doing a social-media campaign to promote its "Pepsi Refresh" initiative. Pepsi plans to give away $20 million in grant money to fund projects in six categories: health, arts and culture, food and shelter, the planet, neighborhoods and education. People can go to the Pepsi website refresheverything.com - which can also be accessed through Facebook and Twitter - to both submit ideas and vote on others they find appealing. Among those on the site now: "Form an all girls club that promotes self-esteem in poverty area" and "Build a fitness center for all students in Hays, Kansas … [Read more...]

Bring It To Me – A Sure-Fire Icebreaker

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[showtime] Being a professional speaker and student leadership trainer, I'm on college campuses facilitating leadership retreats and orientations often. This icebreaker has never failed. I’ve used it successfully with groups as small as 10 people all the way to 800 people. This is great for adding some fun and energy to a meeting or helping new acquaintances feel more comfortable around each other. Just follow my script and it will work for you too. Create groups The first thing I do is get them into smaller groups- ideally no less then 4 and no more than 12. It’s best if the groups are the same numbers, but depending on the number of people, that can be a difficult thing. My favorite size ranges from 8-10. It’s important to get them into their groups in quick and succinct … [Read more...]

A Focus on Strengths or Weaknesses?

I just had my whole thought process rearranged by my friend, Chris Jachimowicz. Don’t worry about your weaknesses. It will take so much more effort to improve them than it will to improve your strengths. Learn more about your strengths at http://www.StrengthsQuest.com. I recorded this as I was walking down The Tunnel of Lights in Chicago. … [Read more...]

The secret to a long and happy life…according to Dr. Andy

I recently attended a dance that was a culmination of a two-week long Ukrainian festival in Dickenson, ND. Everyone was dancing and having a fantastic time, especially the kids. I noticed an older gentleman dancing to his heart's content. I’m sure he was in his 70s, but the energy he exuded was so youthful. His smile was beaming and he was light on his toes. He just looked thrilled to be on the dance floor. I knew I had to talk with him. I truly value the opinion of elders because they’ve been there and done that and have such a different perspective. I asked him what was his secret for a long and happy life. His advice was simple and profound: … [Read more...]

Real leaders see themselves as one of the group, not above the group

Often when working with campus leadership groups advisors ask me to help instill a sense of responsibility and pride in their students during the keynote, conference or retreat. I’m beginning to understand more and more why I’m getting this request as I witness disturbing new trends among college students today. Here are three recent examples from the news: 1. There’s the president of a Student Government Association who publicly supports the dry-campus policy yet gets caught one evening very, very drunk on campus. The school’s official policy states he should be expelled from SGA at the very least, yet he and half of the SGA believe he should be exempt and suffer no consequences since he is of legal drinking age. … [Read more...]

Overcoming your fear of… Hockey?

You might think that I’d be one of the last people who’d feel fear and apprehension about joining new groups since I make my living as a speaker. My whole career for the past 10 years has centered around traveling to new places and meeting new people and talking to new groups. It seems absurd that I would still be nervous about joining a new group. Even as I write this, I think how ridiculous that is. But the fact is that it’s true. So if it’s true for me, it’s not too big a leap to believe that students, student leaders, and even professional staff often have a fear of joining new groups (and maybe even you reading this article :)). So what can we do about this? Since I’m forced to confront this often, I’ve come up with a couple tips for students and student leaders that … [Read more...]

Diversity Programs Gone Wrong

I was recently asked if I knew any diversity activities and it got me thinking. Diversity activities, and especially the one I was thinking about, can be very powerful and life changing. But they can also be damaging to the individual and the group. Most of the success or failure rides on the shoulders of the facilitator. A common activity I facilitate when I do diversity work with student leaders such as Orientation Leaders, RAs or Executive Boards is called “Cross the line.” It’s very well known and widely used. Usually about 10% of the participants have done this activity before with a different group and facilitator. They often come up afterward to tell me about their previous experiences. Some of the stories are more upsetting than others. Sometimes they say how the last time … [Read more...]

“Get the focus back” at Student Orientation

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I was facilitating a full-day orientation leader training recently and an orientation leader asked me how to get a group’s focus back without yelling at them. That is an excellent question and one that comes into play often- whether you’re doing an icebreaker with 500 new students or you’re running a committee meeting of 8. The worst thing one can do is yell at them to, “Be quiet!” “Stop talking!” or even “SHUT UP!” It’s hard to believe but I’ve heard the latter said by experienced people. Not only is it demeaning, but it’s disrespectful. What you want to avoid is “teacher mode.” This is the stereotypical high school teacher who uses yelling and intimidation as a way to maintain order in the classroom. People have had enough of that in their lifetime and if … [Read more...]

Those Damn Tomatoes Again!

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Right up until he passed away at 92, my grandpa and I used to do lunch often. His usual order was a BLT sandwich. Just to be clear, that is a sandwich with bacon, lettuce and tomato - a BLT. Every time the sandwich arrived he'd peek inside and say, "Those damn tomatoes - every time!" I'd be chuckling and thinking to myself, "Grandpa, wouldn't you expect that a BLT would have some 'T' on it?" I just never said it out loud. Remembering this special time with Grandpa, makes me think about life. How many things am I doing flat out wrong? How many ways am I stuck in a box. I've always done it that way so why change?  If I don't like what I'm getting, shouldn't I order something different? Why am I so surprised by life's "damn tomatoes?" … [Read more...]

Gotcha – A Sure-Fire Icebreaker

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Step-by-step, this is an orientation ice-breaker that works every time. Every semester you're looking for a new icebreaker for student orientation. Asking around, you hear a lot of great ideas that either sound way too complicated or just aren't the right fit. You Google, 'icebreakers' and it gives you about 1,080,000 results in .19 seconds. After spending forever and a day searching, you find an icebreaker that sounds simple and seems fun. How hard could it be?  After all hey describe the whole thing in 3 sentences? Come orientation day, the icebreaker flops. This is an all too common story. Most icebreakers flop because the students don't fully understand the directions or they feel corny or awkward doing it. It ends up being a lot of work and not a lot of play. Follow these … [Read more...]

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