January 18, 2018

Be responsible for your own thoughts and choices

Responsibility begins in the mind and is deepened via the heart. To be empowered is to have internal authority. And to have internal authority is to have the ability to observe our thoughts and feelings and make conscious choices that are correct for us. This means that our choices come from response rather than reaction. When we respond, we step back and observe our thoughts and feelings. Next, we remember our core values and then finally, we consciously choose the action to take.

On the other hand, when we are in reaction mode, we immediately take action based on our current beliefs and emotional state. Often times, our beliefs come from family, society, culture, environment, or our individual experiences. They are embedded within us very deeply – many times beyond our conscious awareness. Moreover, our beliefs may not consistently align with our core values. When this happens, we typically get a result of dissatisfaction, upset, or frustration.

When our result is something that feels correct for us, we experience pleasure and learn from our behavior. And when our core beliefs and core values don’t match up, we are not pleased and we (hopefully) get another opportunity in the future to learn. In essence, when we practice empowered responsibility, the way we approach and resolve conflict changes. And when that happens, we experience satisfaction, peace, balance, and sense of freedom in our lives. In essence, we experience Growth in Motion™!! (Growth in Motion™!! = Self Care + Self Empowerment + Self Knowledge + Self Direction)

Take care of yourself in a way that helps you practice empowered responsibility. A few ways to do this are:

Guard your thoughts – have you ever thought about what you are thinking? Another way to ask this question is “are you an observer of your thoughts?” It’s a fascinating question isn’t it? And, it offers a lot of wisdom to you about your unique life experiences. When you begin to observe your thoughts, you begin to see common themes about your life journey. As I have observed my thoughts over the years, I’ve discovered that I have consistently been interested in anything associated with spiritual health/wellness and the heart. And I began to think about what I DO want more than what I DON’T want.

Make conscious choices – our mind is the surface of our heart and our emotions reside in the depth of our heart. Many of us live our lives making choices from the surface of our hearts – our minds. For example, you cram for an exam the night before it. When you get a “C” on it, you start to beat yourself up because you knew you should’ve studied more effectively. This is why so many people feel like their emotions are “buried deep” because they are! To begin making conscious choices, we have to allow ourselves to be vulnerable (shed the tears, have the conversations that you have been avoiding for so long, or make the tough decisions you know are right for you) so that we feel deeply and feed our minds from the depth of our hearts. Then, we have the ability to make conscious choices that create satisfactory results.

Affirm “I am responsible for my own thoughts and choices!” This life practice will start you on the road to becoming more happy, balanced, and satisfied with yourself and your relationships.

Growth in Motion™!! = Self Care + Self Empowerment + Self Knowledge + Self Direction

Take Care of Yourself,
♥ Felicia
“Living a Growth in Motion™!! Lifestyle”

About the Author: Felicia Harlow (43 Posts)

Felicia Harlow, the Heart Ecologist, Life Coach, & College Speaker, teaches women and students how to empower themselves through self care, heart awareness, and self direction. She encourages students to embrace her 4 step Growth in Motion Process™, starting with the Growth in Motion Oath™ and applying it by living a Growth in Motion lifestyle! Felicia is available to speak at campus events year round to help BRING BALANCE TO YOUR STUDENTS LIVES.


  1. Dear Drilon,

    Thanks for your comments. Endings lead to new beginnings – and hopefully better times than before.

  2. What happened to the good ole days the people were nicer and better, the economy was better, music was better, life was just better. Now I know what the Mayans said that the world is gonna end in 2012 the only problem is that it really ended in the beginning of 2012. 

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