January 20, 2018

Beginning your process of self-discovery

Felicia Harlow - Beginning Your Process of Self-Discovery

Psychologist Abraham Maslow was a phenomenal researcher of life who shared with the world (along with his colleagues Goldstein and Rogers) the term ‘self-actualization.’ He defined self-actualization to be the drive for self-fulfilment, namely the tendency for the individual to become their fully realized self at their highest potential. With this background knowledge and my own experiences, I define self discovery as the process of embracing one’s highest self. It is aligned with my definition of Growth in Motion!! which means your fully realized self. Thus, self discovery is an ongoing combination of actions we take as we change and grow throughout life. And, when we add conscious intention to the process of self discovery, we open our minds and hearts to uncover things that can hide in our unconscious mind for years. Some of those ‘hidden’ memories can include past issues such as abandonment, abuse, and more. Yes indeed, to practice self discovery is to be very courageous!

Are you on the path of self discovery?

Our ‘highest self’ is that part of us that reflects positive feeling qualities like compassion, trust, peace, optimism, harmony, beauty, and love to name a few. When we make a sincere effort to live with these qualities at the center of our lives, we experience greater satisfaction with ourselves and within our relationships.

Therefore, self discovery encompasses an ongoing combination of decisions we make and actions we take towards positive change and personal growth. And, in order to take appropriate actions, we must know the correct questions to ask ourselves.

Questions for Reflection

There are a few key questions that begin to lead an individual down the path of self discovery. These questions are:

  1. Who are you?
  2. Why do you do the things you do?
  3. What is your purpose on this earth?

When examined thoroughly, it will take quite awhile to answer each of these questions with a knowingness that extends beyond logical reasoning. In fact, it can and often does take several years to begin to put the pieces of your life’s story together – kind of like a puzzle. With that said, take your time examining them. Life is not a destination; it is a journey of exploration!

Now, let’s get started answering the first question. If I asked your best friend to describe who you are in 4 words or less, what words would they use to describe you? If you compared your list to theirs, would each list match up?

Let’s get the dialog started. I want you to submit a comment below and answer the question: who are you?

Take Care of Yourself,
♥ Felicia
“Living a Growth in Motion™ lifestyle!”

About the Author: Felicia Harlow (43 Posts)

Felicia Harlow, the Heart Ecologist, Life Coach, & College Speaker, teaches women and students how to empower themselves through self care, heart awareness, and self direction. She encourages students to embrace her 4 step Growth in Motion Process™, starting with the Growth in Motion Oath™ and applying it by living a Growth in Motion lifestyle! Felicia is available to speak at campus events year round to help BRING BALANCE TO YOUR STUDENTS LIVES.


  1. I think I am just coming to term with the reality of the need for me to discover myself, in order to make any headway in life. I’ll need the assistance of a pro like you to work on this epiphany please.

  2. Tyrone,

    Thanks for your reply and for your honesty. Perhaps a place for you to start is to think about 3 words you would use to describe what is most important to you. So what 3 words did you come up with?

  3. I can’t answer that question because I really do not know the answer

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