When summer break began this year I didn’t know what to expect. In fact, I thought I wouldn’t be seeing much of my college student because she’d planned on traveling, moving into her apartment and doing a couple of other things that didn’t include me. (Yes, I was pouting.) Now that I’ve been able to spend a lot of time with her this summer I do not want her to go back to school for the fall.

What’s this first-time college mom to do as the time draws closer for her student to return to school?

• Redirect my attention: Each time she talks about needing to be at school; I conveniently can’t hear her.
• Ignore her: If she asks for something she needs in order to get ready for school I pretend like I can’t hear her.

See the trend here?

And my favorite:

• Cry: Every time she talks about her impending departure I distract her by wailing loudly… and because of the noise I can’t hear her.

In all seriousness there are some things you can do to make the transition from summer vacation easier on you and your college student regardless of whether it’s their first year or their fourth:

• Make time to hang out and talk. Now that Amber is a junior she doesn’t specifically tell me about her courses and schedules so I’ll ask her questions about the upcoming year. It helps her by showing I’m interested in her life and it helps me to feel connected. Do this before your student leaves for campus.
• Schedule get-togethers. Since my schedule is flexible, Amber and I don’t normally have to officially schedule events and activities too far in advance. We acknowledge that we want to get together and she normally lets me know which holidays she’s going to come home. If there is something she definitely wants me to put on my schedule and prepare to travel to her campus she lets me know in advance so I can make arrangements for her siblings or get other things in order. Try to schedule something specific at least twice per semester.
• Enjoy your adult. This is one I do most of all. I’m confident that I’ve raised a responsible young lady and I let her take the lead when it comes to her life. I’m not a helicopter parent and I haven’t dropped off the grid; I’ve established an adult parenting relationship that we both enjoy.

Admittedly, this summer Amber and I have been through quite a lot in our personal and home lives, and there have also been a lot of changes. These things have brought us closer and increased my dislike of her leaving again for the fall. I find comfort in the fact that I’ll “see” her on Facebook, “talk” to her on text and that she keeps up with home by following my blog, It’s a woman’s world!

How are you going to say goodbye to your student?

Check out my moving day tips in Keep it Movin’.

Petula Wright
First-time college mom
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When I comment on my daughter’s Facebook page my friends are amazed. When we share our feelings or encouragement for each other on our walls, I see comments telling Amber, my daughter, to spy on their children or relaying how sweet we are. They say their children won’t accept their friendships on social networks.

I’m somewhat amazed by this, but over the years – after talking to my own teenager daughter about her friends’ relationships with their parents – I’ve realized that my relationship with her is somewhat of an anomaly. She tells the tales of arguments, sneaking out, disobeying, disrespect and much more than I’ve experienced thus far as a parent. Honestly, I’m now concerned because I can only hope I have the same “luck” with my other three children that I had with Amber.

Make no mistake, Amber was not a perfect child or teen, but despite the raging hormones, personality changes and general maturing we’ve had our ups and downs. It just so happens, though, that we’ve maintained a very close mother/daughter relationship and – gasp! – friendship!

Why am I talking about this? Parents who have not experienced raising a teenager often inquire as to how Amber and I have remained so close. Therefore when I received an email from Kaplan about their latest Test Prep survey on social networking trends and practices among today’s teens, I had to share the results with you. Here are the results from the Kaplan’ survey, which was conducted by email by 2,313 of their test prep students who took SAT and/or ACT between June 2010 and December 2010:

• 35 percent of teens whose parents are on Facebook report they are not online friends with them. Of that group, 38 percent say the reason they are not friends is because they’ve ignored their mom or dad’s friend request.
• But even as some teens ignore their parents’ friend requests, 82 percent say that mom and dad are either “very involved” (44 percent) or “somewhat involved” (38 percent) in their academic lives.
• A different May 2010 Kaplan Test Prep survey reported that as a 56 percent of 973 high school students who have parents on Facebook say they provide them with full profile access including status updates, party photos and all. Thirty-four percent say they don’t give any access at all and 9 percent of teens give parents limited access.

One thing that was pointed out is that the Facebook relationship may not have as much to do with the parent/child relationship as one might assume. Teenagers and young adults may just want their privacy and separate lives from their parents.

My daughter isn’t one to post something crazy on FB; she doesn’t even cuss IRL (that’s in real life for all you old folk!) and she values the image she presents to people. I think that’s admirable and it makes me really proud.

So, how do you find that middle ground with your teen or young adult? If you’ve already established a strong relationship with your child that involves mutual respect and knowledge of roles and boundaries then it’s just a matter of asking or having a conversation. If that’s not the case with you then take a look at a few tips to get you started:

1. Go on a date. This is strictly just a fun outing doing something the two of you like to do together. Don’t talk about any hot button topics. Just have fun.
2. Keep a journal. The idea is to share a journal and pass it back and forth. You ask each other questions; discuss the topics that cause tension, etc. It’s a great way to get all of your thoughts out, ask all of your questions and be able to concentrate on the topic(s) at hand. (Yes, this is something my daughter and I have done.)
3. Learn to relate. I don’t discount all of the music my daughter listens to. I don’t overly criticize the television shows she watches. I engage, discuss, focus, give feedback and often end up finding something she loves that we can both enjoy.

Here’s the nutshell: It’s a relationship and it’s work. If it wasn’t worth it it’d be easy. Now get out there and make friends.

I’m a firm believer in college students being involved on their campuses with organizations, study groups and extracurricular activities. I also believe they should take the opportunities to study overseas, get part-time jobs and participate in internships. Some people may think college students are busy enough so they don’t need any additional activities, but those activities hold a two-fold function: 1) Gaining “world” knowledge and experiences as well as 2) Learning selflessness.

It’s the subject of selflessness that prompted me to write this post (and a similar one on my personal blog, It’s a woman’s world!). If you’ve been following along here you know I’m the parent of four children with the oldest being almost 20 years old. That honor has given me the distinct title of being the “first-time college mom.”

Having a young adult daughter who is a college student has been quite a learning experience for me. Not only am I acquiring some more higher education knowledge; I’m also learning more about my daughter – as an adult. It’s a well-known fact that I am extremely proud of her. She’s a ray of sunshine and she’s a caring, loving and selfless person. I’ve always known that, but she continues to surprise me with the things she does. Recently, she surprised me again when she asked me to come down to her school for Relay for Life.

Relay for Life is the American Cancer Society’s event to raise money for cancer research and to make a difference in the lives of those who have it, have had it and their loved ones. Amber explained to me that the Relay for Life event goes on throughout the night to relay the fact that cancer doesn’t sleep… it doesn’t take a break. So true; I know. Cancer, for me, has always been on the outskirts of my brain and that’s where I like to keep it. I guess it’s denial.

Years ago I was diagnosed with multiple myeloma, which – simply put – is a cancer of the bone. (If you’re interested you can read more about my health challenges at It’s a woman’s world! where I put up health and weight loss journal posts.) I don’t think of myself as having cancer and I don’t say I have cancer. I just don’t believe in labeling myself that way. I do say I have been diagnosed and the doctors believe I am in remission. I’m telling you all of that because Amber also asked me to write a post about Relay for Life, which got me to thinking about my own situation.

When I went to her team page, where it explains about the event and cause as well as requests support and donations, I was inspired to join in. (Yes, please click the donations link to support the cause and help Amber raise money for Relay for Life. Thanks.) Now, I’m not just going to support my daughter and walk with her, I’m a part of her Relay for Life team to support the American Cancer Society as a survivor. And that’s okay.

As a matter of fact, that’s fabulous. Not only did Amber help me to realize my own mental issues when it comes to cancer, but she showed me the selflessness of participation, the generosity of individuals and the healing affect something like this can have.

Whatever you tell your student about college be sure to add advice on being involved in community service projects, organizations and other activities that will expand their knowledge and empathy for the world around them. It’s a lesson we can all learn on an ongoing basis. I’m also proud to say even my younger children are doing their part: My youngest daughter raised money for St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital and participated in the Trik-a-thon at her school and my two middle children are collecting money for the March of Dimes.

It doesn’t matter what we do; it just matters that it’s a selflessness act.

With 2011 came a lot of changes for me and my family. One of those changes was moving from a home to an apartment. The hardest part of the change for me was moving into a place that isn’t exactly big enough for me and all of my children. It’s an adequate size for me and the three youngest children, but it doesn’t accommodate my adult child – my college student.

That was actually a difficult decision for me to make. As a mother, I make choices based on what’s best for me and my children. What I’m learning – and getting used to – is that the choices I make now may or may not include my adult child. My concern is how those types of decision will affect her.

One thing Amber and I have working for us is our close relationship. Over the past six months or so I’ve inquired of her how she would feel without a room where all of her things will be. I also made it clear to her that I wanted her to feel welcome and comfortable and that wherever we are it’s always home for her. The solution for us on the home front is her sisters’ room will have a bunk bed with a full-sized bed on bottom, which will allow for her to have a comfortable place to rest.

Currently, she sleeps on the couch when she comes home or in one of her siblings’ beds. She doesn’t mind too much because she likes to watch television until all hours, but what we’ve discovered is that when her brother and sisters are home they are up quite early on weekend mornings and they haven’t mastered the art of consideration! The television and kitchen in and near the area where Amber is sleeping causes quite a few “leave me alones” and “be quiets” from my tired and over-worked, biology major student.

Here are a few things you’ll need to consider and discuss if your family has to move while you still have a dependant in college:

Ask your college student what they think. Sounds simple, right? I’m learning it’s not. Amber has quite a few friends whose parents have decided to move without telling them. I can’t fathom any circumstances – besides alcohol or drug addiction – that would fuel me to “abandon” my child regardless of their age. Once I talked to Amber I discovered that she was planning on getting an apartment before the fall semester, which means she probably won’t be home as much. I, however, have decided to always have room for her. The other thing is Amber was aware of my reasons for needing to move and she supported those 100 percent. Although I don’t need her approval it did make the process and transition easier and stress free.

Open up a little. Parents have a mantra they often live by: Children should be children and not concerned with adult business. That’s right to a certain degree. Once you have adult children there is a new and different dynamic in the air. For these adult children there is a measure of concern and care for their parents that reach a higher level especially if you’re a single parent. By disclosing, to a certain degree, issues you’re having you let your child know you trust them, value them and it alleviates some of their worry.

Keep in touch. When our environments change, our routines change so we have to be sure to make time for important relationships. One of my most important relationships is with Amber. I was a little incommunicado when I first moved so Amber initiated most contact. Now that I’m finally settling in I’m sure to still email, text, post to Facebook, instant message and call her. We take advantage of all means of communication to not only stay in touch, but to maintain our changing relationship.

Be flexible. I have a friend whose mother is quite inflexible. The mother is an extremely nice, caring and loving woman, but she only allows guests – including her children – at certain times. For instance, her children have gotten “approval” for visits, started arrangements and been looking forward to visits only to find out that “it’s not a good time.” I’m not completely sure of the lady’s reasons for cancelling or changing plans at the last minute, but if she were a little more flexible she wouldn’t be complaining about not seeing her grandchildren. My reason for telling you this? You don’t want your adult children to resent you. Honestly, there have been times I’ve wanted a quiet weekend alone or been considering other plans and then have found out Amber is coming home. There is not one of those times that I’ve regretted her returns. I’m totally flexible and open to sharing, laughing, shopping, eating, watching movies and lounging – all of the things we like to do together.

In fact, I have to run now so I can IM or text Amber to tell her goodnight. If you have ideas on how to help families and their adult, college children adjust to major life changes; please leave me a comment below. I would love to know your thoughts.

Be sure to come back again soon because I think I’m going to put Amber on the spot. For my next post, we’re going to see what Amber has to say about her family moving.

Petula
First-time college mom
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When I thought about writing this post I was just going to dive in and get started. The topic, which I’ll explore in a couple of weeks, was going to be about how moving the family household affects your college student. The reason I’m not talking about this today is because I’ve been away for a few months on a little hiatus. (You can read more about that on my blog, It’s a woman’s world!) So, to me, it seemed wrong just to pop back in.

Let’s review some of the things I’ve talked about before:

On January 11^th, I talked about changing your inner dialogue. It started when I reread Millicent St. Claire’s book “Simply Ridiculous: A Realization and Transformation of Ridiculous Beliefs and Behaviors.” Using the example of road rage and relying on Millicent’s book, I revealed how we should be looking more at ourselves in situations than at others. I wondered how many other parents do this and have unintentionally passed this habit and mindset off to their children/students who are using this same inner dialogue when dealing with their financial aid, courses, professors and college life in general. Check out that post and let me know your experiences.

The post that’s most appropriate for this time of year is the one titled: “Spring Break: An opportunity for adventure, impact and even more learning.” Although many students strive to have fun during the Spring Break there are opportunities to go on an international adventure, impact a community that needs help or expand their knowledge by participating in a temporary job or educational journey. There are students who will always strive to do more – to go above and beyond what is required, but there are some students who need a little boast to take advantage of this “free” time. In a time when competitiveness and opportunities are few and far between it’s imperative that we assist our children to reach higher. You can get some good ideas on how to do that or where to direct them by reading that Spring Break post.

And one of my favorite posts is “Help your student decide on a major or specialty (aka ‘How to make a doctor’)”. I always like the posts where I can use my oldest child, Amber, as an example. Not only is she willing to share her life with me, but she’s the type of person who believes if her experience can help someone else then go for it. Amber has wanted to be a pediatrician since she was a little girl; I actually can’t remember a time when she hasn’t wanted to do that. It’s great for me, as her mom, to know that she’s chosen a direction and is sticking to it. During my conversations with her regarding her career path, I tried to introduce her to a specialty. She said no. That post tells you about what a parent’s part is in helping their college student decide on a major or specialty.

I know it’s tiring to keep up with everything that’s going on with our children, but I’m here to help. Through trial and error, good and bad experiences, this mom of four is here to share what’s happening in my world so what’s happening in your world will go a little more smoothly. If there’s a topic you’d like me to cover or a question you want to ask feel free to do so in the comments below.

Thanks for stopping by… I look forward to sharing more of my parent’s perspective.

Petula
First-time college mom
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Where did the thought come from? I had recently been reading Millicent St. Claire’s book “Simply Ridiculous: A Realization and Transformation of Ridiculous Beliefs and Behaviors” and a portion of it popped into my head.

“When things got tough, I took the easy way out – I made everyone bad and wrong for everything. Denial made this easy and convenient. (and I couldn’t recognize the ridiculousness of it all.) It was never my fault when things went wrong. I loved finger-pointing. I blamed family, friends and total strangers – I even blamed God.”

It may seem silly to use this as it relates to a little road rage, but normally if one is placing the blame in one small area of their life then their doing it in other parts as well. Fussing in traffic is such a small thing, but it’s something I do a lot and it can often take my mood from good to bad. I wondered how many other parents do this and have unintentionally passed this habit and mindset off to their children/student who are using this same inner dialogue when dealing with their financial aid, courses, professors and college life in general.

Here are some examples:

• The ridiculous thought: “If the instructor would just be clear and not so boring, I would have passed the test.”
• The thought should have been: “I should have asked the instructor for clarification and sought out a tutor.”
• The ridiculous thought: “I missed a meeting because they didn’t post the information where everyone could see it.”
• What about: I should have called one of the members or asked someone if they knew when the meeting was.”

Placing blame on someone else is not taking responsibility for yourself and your actions, and therefore you’re not in control. By taking responsibility you can then take control of your life. It’s almost as easy as it sounds; it’s just a matter of changing your inner dialogue.

It’s going to take awhile for me to stop fuming about slow drivers while I’m on the road, but it’ll make for a more pleasant drive if I just focus on what I’m doing – or not doing – rather than worrying about someone else. That’s a skill I think my college student can learn in some areas and one that I’m continually trying to teach my three youngest children. In the meantime, have a conversation with your student to help them evaluate areas where they are taking complete responsibility. Should they have sought out the help of their professor or mentor instead of complaining that the information isn’t clear? Do they need to enlist the help of a tutor, or other student services, when they’re having difficulty in class instead of sulking and fretting in silence?

To learn more about Simply Ridiculous, you’ll have to check out Millicent’s book and her writing. It’s the ideal quick and easy read that will take you to a new level of understanding.

Petula
First-time college mom
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The majority of campuses we visited have call boxes on their grounds and roaming security personnel. At Georgia College & State University, where Amber is now in the midst of her second year, has those two things in place as well as an emergency button within each of the four bedrooms of her suite and one in the common area. In addition to those measures, the institution also has a text system that’s used when there’s a threat on campus or in the area and all the students need to be notified to remain inside.

If you’re new to the college scene then that’s one of the things you’ll want to pay attention to. Also, ask questions about their security force if they don’t automatically tell you about it. At one campus we toured, I was not impressed with their security measures and at another I thought their security force seemed somewhat militant. At GCSU, not only do they have the on-campus security, but the local police are only a hop, skip and jump away and work in cahoots with the campus to maintain security and order.

About a month or so ago I got a call from my daughter telling me she had just received a text about an individual on campus that was wielding a knife. A few hours later an “all clear” text was sent. It’s knowing and seeing that these methods work that gives me some peace of mind as she ventures further into the big bad world.

As our children grow up and leave home we will no longer be an arm’s length away to protect them so we have to make sure that systems are in place (and we’ve taught them well) to keep them safe. I’m comfortable in knowing that my daughter has the knowledge and support she needs. The cute, pink pepper spray gadget that she carries on her key chain doesn’t hurt either.

Petula
First-time college mom
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Once again I was perusing Amber’s college’s website and happened upon an article about a young lady, with a visual impairment, who is graduating from GCSU. The article “Graduating Senior Navigates Her Way through Life” tells about ShaQuantaey “Taey” Mack who has earned a bachelor’s degree in sociology and criminal justice.

The article got me to thinking: What do students with disabilities need to be successful on campus?

At GCSU there’s an Institutional Equity and Diversity for Disability Services program that helped Taey navigate her four years of college. Therefore it makes sense that when looking for an institute of higher learning there should already be a similar program in place. For Taey, anything she needed for class she was assisted with. For instance, ensuring the software that allows her laptop to print Braille was working properly, etc. Taey was even able to go on a study-abroad trip; she’ll continue her education to get a graduate degree and will be spending about nine months at an organization to learn more advanced skills so she can be even more independent.

Of course elements need to be in place where students with disabilities are going, but – what stood out to me – was the tenacity and drive of this young lady. It got me to thinking that ultimately what all students need to be successful on campus is overall support. Had Taey not had the support of her family as well as individuals and programs on campus she may not have been as successful.

We – as parents and caregivers – can be the difference between the success and failure of our children. That’s IMHO. There may be a fine line between helicopter parent and hands-off parent, but it’s our duty to find the balance. What have you done lately to ensure your child’s success?

Petula
First-time college mom
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As a parent it’s a given that our children are going to sometimes – well, more likely, often – reject our ideas and suggestions. It really doesn’t matter what age they are: It starts when they’re about 2 or 3 years old when you accidentally pose the question, “Do you want to wear this dress today?” What you meant was, “You’re wearing this dress today,” but since you posed it as a question you got an answer. “No.”

Then middle school rolls around and you ask whether your child is going to try out for the basketball team. No. Play an instrument? No. Finally, you realize this person who came from your loins has their own opinions, desires and dreams. But, don’t forget, that doesn’t mean you can’t – or shouldn’t – plant the seeds in their heads.

Case in point: When Amber was in elementary school she told me she wanted to be a pediatrician. I, of course, was thrilled and jumped on the bandwagon. “Paging Dr. Lloyd… paging Dr. Lloyd.”

I talked to her about the profession and asked why she was interested in it. Several years went by and her interest never changed. When she was transitioning from elementary school to middle school I began talking to her about the specialties that pediatricians could choose. Like oncology, cardiology or psychiatry. I took her around a hospital and pointed out certain things. Every medical professional that we encountered throughout her childhood was told what she wanted to do for a living. In high school, I tried to point her into the specialty direction again: What about a pediatric surgeon or ear, nose and throat? No and nope. And she gave me her reasons for wanting to have a straight pediatric practice.

A few days ago I received a call from Amber who said, “I didn’t really want anything I’ve just been meaning to tell you that I chose a specialty.”

“Really? What?”

“Pediatric Gastrointerology.”

“Yea? Congratulations!” We chatted a bit more about why that field made so much sense to her (she’s dealt with GI problems for the past four years) and how exciting the choice was. I, being the perfect mother that I am, did not say ‘I told you so!’

Do I think I was the main reason she chose a specialty? Of course not. But do I think I had some type of influence on her that helped her be open to the possibility when presented with it in college? Definitely.

Whether your student has decided on a major or not, the following tips can help you help your student narrow down their decision:

1. Support their passion or hobby. With financial concerns under consideration do what you can to fuel their passions. For instance, provide books on their interests, take them to trade shows, exhibitions and related events that will encourage them and provide additional information. When feasible, purchase supplies that assist.
2. Suggest and direct their extracurricular activities. If your student is interested in a career in music then they should be taking music lessons, involved with the band and/or chorus and looking into work or internships at theaters and playhouses.
3. Make mentors matter. Those who speak of their success usually mention important and influential people in their lives. A lot of those times the mentors were discovered on their own path. Imagine how much trial and error can be surpassed if you assisted them in meeting potential mentors. Suggest professional organizations to contact, colleagues and fellow alumni, fellow church goers, etc.
4. Lead by example. Making room for your own dreams, taking your own advice and using your resources to make your education and career decisions are obvious examples young adults may emulate.

There’s no step-by-step plan that will make this a fail-safe plan, but if you’re a proactive parent you can continue to lead your child – your young adult – through the most exciting, important and challenging time of their lives.

“Paging Dr. Lloyd… paging Dr. Lloyd.”

Petula
First-time college mom
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“After Matt Drury earns a perfect score on the SAT, he soon finds himself working for a vast cheating network at his high school, getting paid for services ranging from taking the SAT for classmates with a fake ID to providing social studies homework and test answers for the entire ninth grade. But once inside the cheating network, he encounters corruption, beatings, and even murder. With the help of his oddball friends, Matt soon decides he must expose the network and bring down its nefarious leader, Emil Updike. And he just might be able to, if Updike and the network don’t destroy him first.”

Want to find out what happens next? Then you’ll have to read “The Great SAT Swindle: A novel featuring more than 1,500 vocabulary words in a tale of deception & punishment” by Michael Hartnett. As soon as I became privy to this work of fiction, I knew that parents and students alike would be interesting in not only a good read, but an opportunity to improve their vocabulary. And for those students who are preparing to take the SAT they’ll kill two birds with one stone: a great story and a creative study guide.

“The Great SAT Swindle” is a book that I wish I’d had in high school and one my rising college junior, Amber, wishes she’d been able to read as well. Even though it’s a novel written for high school students, or those in that age range, I found it to be quite humorous*. The plot moves a bit slowly in the beginning, but the way the words are used made a “word hog” like me really get into the book. And, believe it or not, even the definitions (they’re numbered and at the bottom of each page) are engaging. For instance, when defining the word ‘ogling’ Hartnett writes, “to stare at, usually with love or sex on the mind. Ogle is what seventeen-year-old boys like me do in the hours left when they’re not talking about sports or playing video games.”

The idea that a creative work can help with learning SAT vocabulary words was initially lost on me because I thought the person reading the book wouldn’t be able to absorb the words when only encountering them once. However, further along in the book I found some words – I didn’t make it through the entire book before this review – repeated and reiterated. In fact, the use of words is fantastic (“… I would say to Constance if I were some kiss-ass sycophantic toady”) albeit sometimes redundant (“… inclined to foster monotony, tedium and ennui with less effort than I had anticipated.”), but the author is successful in capturing your attention while improving your vocabulary. This is a book that parents will want to read as well. The one downfall from the adult perspective: No pronunciations.

With the stress that test taking causes it’s a good idea to find something that isn’t as stressful as some study guides. Of course, there are practice tests and other means of studying (like guides, tutoring, etc.) that should be utilized, but with “The Great SAT Swindle” students can have a little fun while expanding their brains.

Don’t take my word for it; judge for yourself and get a copy at Amazon. (Yup, that was a shameless plug to get you to purchase through my link …)

*Humorous example: In the first chapter of the book the protagonist is talking about a hairstylist acting as a psychiatrist and says, “Watching her attempt to smile was like watching a dog with no legs try to chase down a stick.”

Petula
First-time college mom
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