January 20, 2018

Coping with college by connecting the mind and the heart

Felicia Harlow - Coping with college by connecting the mind and the heart

College life is filled with one activity after the next one that can stretch you out to the max. By using a few personal techniques and starting now, you can develop a lifelong habit of self-care that will make sure you aren’t overly stressed, physically fatigued, mentally anguished or emotionally distraught. Begin now and you’ll be balanced and stress-free not only in school, but in your future professional, social and family life.

1. Spend quiet time alone with yourself – When you take time to experience quiet time alone, you begin to hear the all-important inner voice of your heart. This voice is very different from the voice of your mind. It is not logical and it can be quite spontaneous and very revealing about your true passions and desires. The truth is, your heart and not your head should be the ultimate guide for your life! In between classes, studying, club activities, dating and having a good time, don’t forget to give yourself the gift of quiet time with yourself – even if it begins with just 5 or 10 minutes each day.

2. Focus on your heart– Just like when you get a checkup, consciously take time to locate your heartbeat and actually feel it. Your class assignment is to find your heartbeat in your chest and give it some undivided attention. This brief and simple act creates a bridge between your conscious mind, your unconscious mind and other automatic functions like the beating of your heart. We don’t normally pay attention to these ‘automatic’ functions and doing so strengthens them. As you take the time to focus on your heart, subconsciously, you send appreciation to it. And in return, it brings more conscious moments of appreciation to you in the context of your daily living.

3. Do you! – It is my belief that each of us is a unique expression of love – and your college years are when the really unique you begins to take hold. Humans are designed to be in relationships so that we can learn about ourselves, learn from each other and continue to grow. When you are your true self, make your own decisions, stay true to your beliefs and “do you,” you open the doors for others to receive the gift that you bring to life – your uniqueness. And when you don’t “do you,” you end up in a vicious cycle of being someone you think others want you to be. As a result, never feel quite right because you are not aligned with the true you. So, the bottom line is… be yourself, not what others want you to be.

Take care of yourself,
♥ Felicia

About the Author: Felicia Harlow (43 Posts)

Felicia Harlow, the Heart Ecologist, Life Coach, & College Speaker, teaches women and students how to empower themselves through self care, heart awareness, and self direction. She encourages students to embrace her 4 step Growth in Motion Process™, starting with the Growth in Motion Oath™ and applying it by living a Growth in Motion lifestyle! Felicia is available to speak at campus events year round to help BRING BALANCE TO YOUR STUDENTS LIVES.


  1. Petula,

    Thank you for your feedback! I’d love to hear what your daughther thought about the article. Please send my well wishes to her as she prepares to complete her first year in college:)

  2. This is a great post that my daughter Amber should read. She’s in her first year and I know she would benefit from it. As a matter of fact, we all would benefit. 🙂

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