January 20, 2018

Don’t make self-sabotage a habit

Felicia Harlow - Don't make self-sabotage a habit

Do you often get last minute requests from friends or family members just after the moment you decided to carve out quality time for yourself? Have you noticed a habit of giving your time and energy to projects or people and at the end of the day you feel exhausted or dissatisfied with the outcome? Do you frequently think “when is it my turn to get what I want?” If you answered yes to any of these questions, there is a good chance that you are engaging in self-sabotage.

When something is important to us, we want to take care of it, protect it, and maintain it. And when important things or people in our lives have a perceived value, the risks are even higher. In fact, we will put aside, deny or jeopardize our own needs and well being to provide for those we consider important and valuable. It is a habit that many of us have come to accept as normal.

Each time we assign a value to something outside of ourselves, we reduce our sense of self efficacy. And the destruction continues as we make daily choices to care for and maintain something or someone that has “more” value than we do. Being the top student in the class is not more valuable than your emotional, physical, social, and mental well being. Being a faithful partner is not more valuable than internal peace.

If you’ve read this far, chances are you probably have considered something or someone more important than you at various time points of your life. You may have kept a secret that you know you should’ve shared for your own protection. In this moment right now, think of yourself. Value yourself by making YOU the most important aspect of your life. Remember, self empowerment is a key aspect of living a Growth in Motion™!! lifestyle.

Growth in Motion!! = Self Care + Self Empowerment + Self Knowledge + Self Direction

Take Care of Yourself,
“Living a Growth in Motion™ lifestyle!”

About the Author: Felicia Harlow (43 Posts)

Felicia Harlow, the Heart Ecologist, Life Coach, & College Speaker, teaches women and students how to empower themselves through self care, heart awareness, and self direction. She encourages students to embrace her 4 step Growth in Motion Process™, starting with the Growth in Motion Oath™ and applying it by living a Growth in Motion lifestyle! Felicia is available to speak at campus events year round to help BRING BALANCE TO YOUR STUDENTS LIVES.

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