Don’t you just hate it when you’re driving down a single lane street behind a distracted driver and after waiting what seems to be hours at a red light, the light turns green and THEY WON’T GO!?!
A red light means stop, a yellow light means take caution but a green light is a big signal for GO!
When you meet someone new, there is usually a reason to take caution and watch out for sudden surprises. You have to take your time and ease through the interactions. If anything sounds funny or looks suspicious or even rubs you the wrong way, definitely see that as a sign to STOP. It may not be a permanent stop but it is definitely a complete stop that brings all activity to a halt. Should there be reason to reengage, things can get moving again.
What is most interesting is the green light which indicates that the coast is clear and you can GO! Not everyone can tell when they are being given the “green light” and they hesitate, putter or even stall until the light changes to another color. Why? Good question. Maybe people hesitate when they aren’t paying attention and are looking in too many directions to see the signal when it’s green. Maybe some putter out of shyness and fear of rejection moving two steps forward and one step back and end up nowhere. Yet others wait and wait and stall and stall expecting the other person to make the next move thinking they are powerless to take things to the next level.
Well, my advice is this: if the light is green…GO. Take the next step and make something happen. Ask a pointed question about where this relationship is going. Say something in jest that is really true about how your feelings are changing, like, “if I didn’t know any better, I’d think we liked each other or something.” There’s nothing worse than missing your only opportunity to start something or move something up a notch. Why, far too many men wish they had said something more to the potential woman of their dreams besides, “excuse me,” as they passed by. Seize the day. Know that this moment will never return and you may need to act now or forever hold your peace. After all, what have you got to lose?
Green means GO. You might just get exactly what you want.
Dr. Torri “Love” Griffin, LPC is the creator of the LiSENSE 2 DATE™ Relationship Training Program which teaches singles of all ages to “use common SENSE to remove NONSENSE so their relationships make SENSE.”