Love Will Come Again

Torri Griffin - Love Will Come Again

When I think about what college students struggle with in relationships, I come up with two things. One is that too often when a relationship starts, students believe they MUST make it work even if it shows signs of not working. What I mean by this is that if Sarah and John begin a relationship and find that they are not best for each other, it can be really hard for them to end it without feeling as if some character flaw of their own was to blame. Either one could carry feelings of rejection for weeks or even months after the final goodbye. Some, these days, are going as far as considering suicide or even homicide.

This is just not necessary. In My Little Book of Wisdom, Vol. 1: 52 Lessons I’ve Learned from Living Life, I share a lesson on life. It says,

“People come into your life for a period of time I call
a Chiasmata. It has beginning point
and an ending point.

The size and length of the Chiasmata depends on
the depth and quality
of the relationship.
Some ending points are long overdue.”

Yes, love is important and yes, you were touched in a special way by this special love – but, not all love lasts a lifetime. Some love is just in your life for a season. And as seasons come and go, it is good to enjoy the season while it is here. Enjoy the season of love while you are in it.

The second thing I think college students struggle with when it comes to relationships is hopelessness about the future. This could be the basis for the first struggle. If John and Sarah never get each other out of their systems, they could mistakenly avoid or block new love as it attempts to enter their lives. I’ve heard so many college students claim to have trouble finding “the one” that they give up and succumb to a lesser quality relationship. Don’t settle for less than the best for you! Yes, that last one didn’t work out the way you expected but the next one might. Keep hope alive and expect for the best. Love will come again.

About Dr. Torri "Love" Griffin (23 Posts)

Dr. Torri “Love” Griffin, LPC is the creator of the LiSENSE 2 DATE™ Relationship Training Program which teaches singles of all ages to “use common SENSE to remove NONSENSE so their relationships make SENSE.”