April 23, 2014

How Does Growth in Motion™ Impact My Life as a College Student?

Felicia Harlow - IAM-U Graduation

Growth is development, evolution, progress, increase, expansion. In short, it means CHANGE. To be in motion means to move, act, engage in an activity, or to shift something. I define “growth in motion” as a phrase that describes a way of being in relationship with oneself. It is a process of living consciously. This means you have to take a very close look at your habits and authentically evaluate which ones are overdue and need to move in a different direction. To be self-regulated, to … [Read more...]

Coping with college by connecting the mind and the heart

Felicia Harlow - Coping with college by connecting the mind and the heart

College life is filled with one activity after the next one that can stretch you out to the max. By using a few personal techniques and starting now, you can develop a lifelong habit of self-care that will make sure you aren't overly stressed, physically fatigued, mentally anguished or emotionally distraught. Begin now and you'll be balanced and stress-free not only in school, but in your future professional, social and family life. 1. Spend quiet time alone with yourself - When you take time … [Read more...]

Don’t make self-sabotage a habit

Felicia Harlow - Don't make self-sabotage a habit

Do you often get last minute requests from friends or family members just after the moment you decided to carve out quality time for yourself? Have you noticed a habit of giving your time and energy to projects or people and at the end of the day you feel exhausted or dissatisfied with the outcome? Do you frequently think “when is it my turn to get what I want?” If you answered yes to any of these questions, there is a good chance that you are engaging in self-sabotage. When something is … [Read more...]

Are you ready for leadership development in college?

Felicia Harlow - Leadership Development at Clemson University

According to The Leadership Challenge by James Kouzes and Barry Posner, "leadership is a relationship" and "leadership development is self development." It is no doubt that this philosophy has been embraced by the women’s leadership conference vision team at Clemson University. It was a delight to witness the manifestation of this vision when I travelled to Clemson, SC to speak at the 2011 annual Women’s Leadership Conference. Students were engaging in discussions about conflict management, … [Read more...]

Be clear about who you are and honest about what you want

Felicia Harlow - Be Honest

Have you ever heard the phrase “honesty is the best policy?” Where did that phrase come from? I mean, there are so many situations that clearly reveal that honesty will either hurt or destroy the relationship! For instance, you were out with friends at a campus event and met this really nice guy who made you feel like no other person ever has. In fact, he made you feel so much better about yourself than your current partner (who you’ve mutually agreed to be in a committed relationship with). So, … [Read more...]

What is stressing you out right now?

Felicia Harlow - What are you stressing about?

Recently, I visited the University of Alabama- Huntsville campus and presented Relaxation 101: A Meditation Primer for Stress Management During College and this was one of the questions I asked students to answer - "What is stressing you out right now?" The responses that I received were numerous - including but not limited to: Taking tests Starting first year of college Death of a family member Sexual abuse Relationship/dating problems Working while attending college Change in … [Read more...]

Tap into the Power of Nature

Felicia Harlow - Back to Nature

College students can have very stressful lives. When I was in college, it was commonplace for “information overload” to send us into some of the deepest hours of sleep because we were so worn out from all of those hundreds of chapters of reading material! On many occasions (too many to count), I fell asleep while reading, only to wake up and discover that I lost a lot of valuable study time! During those days, we didn’t use a lot of resources for help. We just “pushed” our way through it … [Read more...]

Magnetism: A key to happiness and satisfaction

Felicia Harlow - Magnetism

Have you ever used any of the following phrases to describe another human being? He’s so irresistible! She has a magnetic personality! I feel like I can talk to him about anything! She makes me feel like a million bucks! Each of the above expressions is a different way to express one’s magnetism. You can probably think of so many more to add to the list. Magnetism is another word for charisma, charm, or pull. And you don’t have to be around a person very long to feel the power of … [Read more...]

Avoiding daytime fatigue

Felicia Harlow - Avoiding daytime fatigue

Your day starts on the “right” side of the bed and you go to classes feeling energized and ready to take on anything. You are alert, prepared, and focused and all seems to be flowing smoothly. As the day progresses, you begin to slow down, start to yawn, creativity takes a “back seat” and you feel like you could go home and crawl into bed. And somewhere around 3-4pm, it hits you like a ton of bricks. You feel depleted and now your thoughts are racing inside your head saying “I don’t feel like … [Read more...]

Be responsible for your own thoughts and choices

Responsibility begins in the mind and is deepened via the heart. To be empowered is to have internal authority. And to have internal authority is to have the ability to observe our thoughts and feelings and make conscious choices that are correct for us. This means that our choices come from response rather than reaction. When we respond, we step back and observe our thoughts and feelings. Next, we remember our core values and then finally, we consciously choose the action to take. On the … [Read more...]