September 2, 2014

Empower your relationships with compassion

Within the word compassion is the word compass. There is also the word passion. When I think of the word compass, I think of a device with a magnetic needle that helps me determine my sense of direction. When I explored the meaning of the word in the dictionary, I also found that compass means to comprehend, to travel entirely around, or to get into one's possession or power. This discovery was like a revelation for me because when I read those words "direction" and tapping into "one's power," … [Read more...]

Take care of yourself for healthier relationships

Felicia Harlow - Mutual Ground Domestic Violence Center

Healthy relationships start with a focus on self-care and well-being. That is the philosophy I shared with Voorhees College students during a visit to their campus. When I asked the question, “What is most important to you in your relationships?” I received answers like trust, communication, love and respect. The idea of practicing self-care as a foundation for healthy relationships appeared to be a new paradigm for them. I can understand, though, because several years ago, it became a new … [Read more...]

Faculty and Staff “In Motion” at Voorhees College

Felicia Harlow at Voorhees College

[showtime width=640 height=300] A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of meeting Coretta Jamison, Women’s Advocate of Voorhees College. I quickly learned that she is a caring, committed, enthusiastic and very important resource for students. Her influence with those students was reflected in the number of attendees at my program, Healthy Relationships 101. It was also reflected in one of her student leaders, Bazh Ragin. (Prior to my visit, Coretta shared with me that her Thursday programs are … [Read more...]

Feeling pressured in your college life?

Felicia Harlow - Feeling Pressured?

Do you feel like you are always hurrying to get things done? Are you suffering from burnout? Does it feel like you hardly ever get your needs met? If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, you could be going through a very important life lesson. That lesson is learning how to become wise about the pressures of the world. It may feel like a drag now but you will be thankful for learning this lesson as you move beyond college and into the next phase of your life! If the above … [Read more...]

Understanding yourself leads to internal peace.

Felicia Harlow - Understanding = Internal Peace

Recently, I was perusing the dictionary because I wanted to see what it said about this word "understanding." Some synonyms shared were: comprehend, absorb, appreciate, identify with, empathize, be familiar with, and value. And in the context of personal growth, to understand is to be willing to empathize with others, be in tune with our emotional selves, and to value individual differences - even when we don't agree with them. Thus the process of understanding involves a high level of mental, … [Read more...]

How Does Growth in Motion™ Impact My Life as a College Student?

Felicia Harlow - IAM-U Graduation

Growth is development, evolution, progress, increase, expansion. In short, it means CHANGE. To be in motion means to move, act, engage in an activity, or to shift something. I define “growth in motion” as a phrase that describes a way of being in relationship with oneself. It is a process of living consciously. This means you have to take a very close look at your habits and authentically evaluate which ones are overdue and need to move in a different direction. To be self-regulated, to … [Read more...]

Avoiding daytime fatigue

Felicia Harlow - Avoiding daytime fatigue

Your day starts on the “right” side of the bed and you go to classes feeling energized and ready to take on anything. You are alert, prepared, and focused and all seems to be flowing smoothly. As the day progresses, you begin to slow down, start to yawn, creativity takes a “back seat” and you feel like you could go home and crawl into bed. And somewhere around 3-4pm, it hits you like a ton of bricks. You feel depleted and now your thoughts are racing inside your head saying “I don’t feel like … [Read more...]

Pay attention to your heart for quality thinking

Felicia Harlow - "From The Heart" at UN Omaha

Your heart is the core of who you are. Your mind is the instrument of your heart. Emotion is behind thinking. And your “unsettled” emotions are buried very deep within your heart which feeds every cell of your body. Therefore, it is critical that we understand the physical, emotional, and energetic workings of our heart. Living from the heart is all about placing your consciousness in your heart and practicing it daily. It is about placing your intention, attention, and focus on the center point … [Read more...]

I Am a Seed of Greatness!

Felicia Harlow with Students

A seed represents the beginning or starting point of all living things. Inside of the seed is all that is needed to grow into something magnificent. There is nothing to add, subtract or change within the seed to produce its harvest. And the most amazing part is that, given the proper conditions for growth, one tiny seed will produce so much more than itself. To be great is to be massive, to be talented, and to be important. Each and every one of us is born from a seed that already contains … [Read more...]

Time to ‘Do Nothing.’

Felicia Harlow - Why Time to do Nothing

Self care is a key element of the Growth in Motion process… and 'doing nothing' is a key element of self care, better known as ‘rest.’ When school is out there are no more final papers and exams to worry about, it's a time to relax and rejuvenate yourself before returning to school. After all, you've been working hard over the past year. But, if you think like I did while I was in college, you may have scheduled a lot on your ‘to-do list’ for the summer. Or you may be spending lots of energy … [Read more...]