October 4, 2015

Don’t make self-sabotage a habit

Do you often get last minute requests from friends or family members just after the moment you decided to carve out quality time for yourself? Have you noticed a habit of giving your time and energy to projects or people and at the end of the day you feel exhausted or dissatisfied with the outcome? Do you frequently think “when is it my turn to get what I want?” If you answered yes to any of these questions, there is a good chance that you are engaging in self-sabotage. When something is … [Read more...]

My 80 Year ‘Young’ Gift

On March 12, 2011, I met an 80 year old woman who didn’t look a day over 50! Clearly, she was a woman living a Growth in Motion!!™ lifestyle She was one of the participants at the Women’s Leadership Conference at Clemson University and she contributed lots of wisdom. After delivering the 1st part of my speech, she approached me and thanked me for the wisdom I shared about authenticity. And after the 2nd part of my speech, she re-approached my product table and purchased one of my audio … [Read more...]

Avoiding daytime fatigue

Your day starts on the “right” side of the bed and you go to classes feeling energized and ready to take on anything. You are alert, prepared, and focused and all seems to be flowing smoothly. As the day progresses, you begin to slow down, start to yawn, creativity takes a “back seat” and you feel like you could go home and crawl into bed. And somewhere around 3-4pm, it hits you like a ton of bricks. You feel depleted and now your thoughts are racing inside your head saying “I don’t feel like … [Read more...]

What is stressing you out right now?

Recently, I visited the University of Alabama- Huntsville campus and presented Relaxation 101: A Meditation Primer for Stress Management During College and this was one of the questions I asked students to answer - "What is stressing you out right now?" The responses that I received were numerous - including but not limited to: Taking tests Starting first year of college Death of a family member Sexual abuse Relationship/dating problems Working while attending college Change in … [Read more...]

Are you conscious or walking around in a fog?

What is Consciousness? Has anyone ever asked you this question? Have you ever asked yourself this question? It has become a very popular word in our present day society but do we really know what it means? Well, the term “consciousness” means the awareness of being aware. And what we are aware of is what we notice, what we perceive, or what we realize in our everyday lives. So, the next question is, “what are you aware of and is this improving your life or making it more difficult?” As a … [Read more...]

What is Self Compassion?

Self compassion is a key component of living a Growth in Motion!! lifestyle. It is an important aspect of self empowerment. Growth in Motion™!! = Self Care + Self Empowerment + Self Knowledge + Self Direction The ‘self’ implies a focus on “me” or “I” and can be defined as our personality, identity, or character. Within the word compassion is the word compass. There is also the word passion. When I think of the word compass, I think of a device with a magnetic needle that helps me determine my … [Read more...]

What’s Your Definition of Success?

Does this question enter your thoughts often? If so, what comes to mind for you – happiness, a good paying job, the American dream, a healthy family? If not, how would you define success for your life? Recently, I visited the University of Nebraska – Omaha and presented Healthy Relationships 101. I shared with students that one of the most important relationships they will have in life is the one with themselves. I also shared that healthy relationships begin with self care. Self care leads … [Read more...]

Be responsible for your own thoughts and choices

Responsibility begins in the mind and is deepened via the heart. To be empowered is to have internal authority. And to have internal authority is to have the ability to observe our thoughts and feelings and make conscious choices that are correct for us. This means that our choices come from response rather than reaction. When we respond, we step back and observe our thoughts and feelings. Next, we remember our core values and then finally, we consciously choose the action to take. On the … [Read more...]

Are you ready for leadership development in college?

According to The Leadership Challenge by James Kouzes and Barry Posner, "leadership is a relationship" and "leadership development is self development." It is no doubt that this philosophy has been embraced by the women’s leadership conference vision team at Clemson University. It was a delight to witness the manifestation of this vision when I travelled to Clemson, SC to speak at the 2011 annual Women’s Leadership Conference. Students were engaging in discussions about conflict management, … [Read more...]

Are you engaging in authentic relationships?

To be authentic is to be real, transparent, truthful, or honest. Within the word relationships are the words "relate" and "ship." Some synonyms for "relate" include communication, link up, share, connect, and cooperate. When I think of the word "ship," I think of a boat, cruise ship, vessel, or something that carries or transports people or goods. As I reflect upon all of these separate ideas of the words authentic relationships, I am humbled because the underlying meaning of these words is all … [Read more...]