January 18, 2018

What is stressing you out right now?

Felicia Harlow - What are you stressing about?

Recently, I visited the University of Alabama- Huntsville campus and presented Relaxation 101: A Meditation Primer for Stress Management During College and this was one of the questions I asked students to answer – “What is stressing you out right now?” The responses that I received were numerous – including but not limited to:

  • Taking tests
  • Starting first year of college
  • Death of a family member
  • Sexual abuse
  • Relationship/dating problems
  • Working while attending college
  • Change in sleeping habits
  • Taking advance classes
  • Grades worse than expected
  • Abortion
  • And more!

I also asked them to identify the symptoms they are currently experiencing due to their stress levels and they responded with these symptoms:

  • Sleep disturbances
  • Anxiety
  • Constantly thinking about something
  • Tiredness
  • Worry
  • Weight gain
  • Muscle tension
  • Stiff neck and shoulders

This is life in college as many students across America perceive and experience it in 2011. The good news is that student’s mental and emotional health is beginning to receive the attention it needs. Some of the most recent statistics reported in The American Freshman: National Norms Fall 2010 report (conducted by the Higher Education Research Institute) involved more than 200,000 incoming first-time, full-time students at 279 four year colleges across America.

Researchers found that first-year college students’ self ratings of their emotional health dropped to record low levels in 2010, however, their drive to achieve and their academic abilities are trending upward.

To me, this means that mental thinking and emotional feelings are not in alignment. This is the foundational work of my 4 step Growth in Motion™!! Process. I teach students to begin identifying and uncovering the stress and emotional blocks in their lives so that they can take care of themselves in an empowering way while attending college and beyond.

If you are experiencing some or any of the above symptoms, here is one thing you can do to experience relief – especially since finals are right around the corner!

Take 3 deep, full, slow breaths and read this poem out loud each day

Don’t worry, you’ll be okay
Slowing down is good
You are enough just as you are
Just relax
Let life unfold
You have what it takes to handle anything
Good things come from patience, not pushing
Trust life
Stop the judgment and internal lectures
Return to yourself in this moment where life is peaceful and safe – RELAX!

♥Take Care of Yourself,

“Living a Growth in Motion™ lifestyle!”

About the Author: Felicia Harlow (43 Posts)

Felicia Harlow, the Heart Ecologist, Life Coach, & College Speaker, teaches women and students how to empower themselves through self care, heart awareness, and self direction. She encourages students to embrace her 4 step Growth in Motion Process™, starting with the Growth in Motion Oath™ and applying it by living a Growth in Motion lifestyle! Felicia is available to speak at campus events year round to help BRING BALANCE TO YOUR STUDENTS LIVES.


  1. It’s funny how reading the poem relaxed me right as I was reading it. I guess it works!

  2. Thomas,
    Thanks for your feedback. I’m glad that you’ve found a way to destress through video games. As you’ve mentioned in your comment, the key is “mindless” so that you get to just “be yourself” without thinking so much about things.

  3. Good tips on destressing. For me, nothing beats just sitting down and playing a mindless video game from time to time 🙂

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